I can't find the gay men I'm really attracted to?

I know what you mean. Im just like you in that I want the rugged type of man the everyday cute masculine man who are all but impossible to find out if they are gay...or seems so especially if you are in the closet and masculine yourself and you don't want to offend anybody. Many of these guys also are gay or bi or mess with guys and don't call themselves gay or bi or whatever lol. It's always complicated with these types of ppl. The best way in my opinion to find out who is who and who are gay or i or DL is networking through more gay ppl i guess. Well the really out and gay ppl might know a couple who they have messed with. You see those masculine guys are in the same boat as you in that they find it hard to locate masculine gay guys, but the feminine ones are easy to locate and they can mess with them on the DL, maybe ask for BJ from them or something. If you network thru them you may be able to find a couple of them, maybe, I duno. Oftentimes they might not have internet or a computer and the only way to reach them is through text message or phone whihc you would only be able to get from a person they know on the dl. You don't have to mess with the really out fem gays only i guess become chat friends and ask them to set u up with someone lol... Going to the internet is good to meet the ones who are dl and stuff also and they can kindof open the doors to other guys who don't use websites and stuff. It's difficult and a hard chase but imo its what makes those guys even more attractive...sorry about the lack of punctuation and stuff im trying to finish typing before lunch lol